Author: joannerambling

I am a mother and grandmother and I blog about my family and my life along with anything else that takes my fancy

Mother and Child

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Good morning all, when was the last time you spoke to your children or they spoke to you?

How often do you talk to them?

I speak to my children all the time, Natasha I see and speak to daily, Jessica I talk to maybe once or twice a week and I see and talk to Kathy-Lee every Saturday when she brings over my shopping.

What I cannot imagine is going weeks, months or years not talking and seeing my children, however, I have a couple of penpals who have not spoken to their child in months or years. I feel this is so sad but what is really sad is one penpal has no idea why her child isn’t talking to her. When she asked what the problem was she was told she should know what she did.

This is the woman who gave birth to you, raised you the best way she knew how to do. Maybe she wasn’t the best mother at times or let you down at times but she tried her best. At least you can do is tell her what she did to upset you.

How would you feel if your child treated you like you treat your mother?

Your child would see how you treat your mother and think if you can treat your mother that way they can treat you the same way.

Judging Others

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Let’s talk about being judgemental, we all judge others, yes even me. Just think about it, how often have you said or thought the following, “how could she/he do that” or “what is wrong with them” or maybe “why would you say that”, all these are judging statements. So many of us are quick to judge others but really how often are our judgements small minded or just wrong and we are judging things that are none of our business.

I am very close to my parents and siblings and cannot imagine no speaking to them for weeks, months or years but I have pen friends who have not spoken to family members for extended periods of time. One lady I write to said she didn’t even know why her child wasn’t speaking to her, when she asked she was told if you don’t know I’m not telling you. What the hell how can one fix or do anything about something they are unaware of. She even asked her child’s partner what she did wrong but still got no answer.

I have another pen friend who told her children that she was working with a right bastard and she was glad to get home and have a couple of glasses of wine, this for some reason pissed her children off and they didn’t speak to her for a couple of weeks. I might add this woman is in her 50’s.

I am so glad my children are not that judgemental.