Good morning I am writing this on the 28^th two days after Boxing Day now some of you might be wondering what is Boxing Day well I could tell you but I would have to Google it first to find out so I am not telling you if you want to know Goggle it yourself………………….lol

I can tell you it has nothing to do with boxing reindeer punching Santa or anything to do with boxing at all as far as I know, the reindeer might gang up on Santa but I doubt it. It does have a lot to do with crowds and shopping and people fighting for a so called bargain which in all honesty would still be there in a week’s time, unless they are lucky to get one of the rare really cheap items that are around on Boxing Day. Where I live our Boxing Day sales start on the 27^th as the shops are not open on Boxing Day here. I try not to venture out to the shops if I can avoid it but this year I had to go out shopping yesterday and the crowd at Charlestown Square drove me nuts. Picture isn’t Charlestown Square but it was that crowded.

Boxing day is also about cricket not that I am a cricket fan but is about cricket as well and of course it is about a boat race, the Sydney to Hobart yacht race that so many take part in, another thing I don’t get.

For me Boxing Day is a day when I do nothing, why because Christmas Day is so full on so the next day is a day to just chill.

How was every one’s Christmas?

Mine was great Tim and I slept in till nearly 8am we woke up just before Natasha turned up to get her presents, I could say to exchange presents but that would be wrong since she didn’t give her father anything which upset me. She gave me a couple of photo frames which are lovely but her dad got nothing and this really bugs me, mostly because I gave her $400 worth of gift cards and she couldn’t buy her father anything.

Jessica gave me a typewriter which I love I have wanted one for ages now and now I have one and I am so happy, even though Tim doesn’t understand why I wanted one but he doesn’t need to understand he isn’t the one who is going to use it. I also got some jewellery and a lap desk for me to use at night when I am writing in my diary and doing puzzles and such oh yeah I can of course use the laptop on it as well.

There were about 15 people at mums for lunch yesterday, Kathy & Michael didn’t come because they had Christmas lunch at their house for his family and Kathy said she had about 15 people there as well. She did say she is amazed that mum is still doing Christmas lunch at the age of nearly 74; yeah mum will be 74 at the end of January.

I think everyone loved the gifts I gave them, I hope they did mum said she tried on the shoes I gave her today and found them strange as they are toning shoes which means they rock as you walk and she said it is going to take some getting used to them.

Last night I opened the bottle of scotch that mum gave me but I only had one small scotch and coke last night I have had a couple this afternoon as well. I do like a couple of drinks but I don’t have strong drinks and only a few at them most I am just not much of a drinker.

 

 

I love Christmas it is my favourite time of year, how about you what is your favourite time of the year?

I have found as I get older I love Christmas more and I love to decorate the house for Christmas now days we have these decorations that you just stick on the wall which I use a lot of and along with ornaments that have my grandkids names on them and photos of my grandkids as well.

Last night Tim came out into the lounge room with his phone and took a photo of the dining room table with all the presents on it to send to his cousin Christine, he wanted to show her that we are “givers”. He sounded proud when he said to me that he told her we are givers and love to spoil people at Christmas and that we send out Christmas cards to connect with those we care about not in order to get something back because giving is more important than getting.

So even though he will complain about how much I buy and such he is also proud to be married to someone who loves to give and share with others. I made a comment to him recently that after 30 years together he should know what I am like and his reply was he does and it is one of the reasons he loves me.

Well Christmas is now only a week away, and have to say I am pretty much set for the big 9day; the above photo is of my dining table which is loaded with presents for the family. Tim likes to say that there is a lot of money on that table and yeah he is right but I prefer to think that there is a lot of joy to be had on the table. As I may have mentioned I only have a small tree this is it, it is sitting on tope of the deep freezer.

Yesterday when we went to see nan she was out of bed and down in the lounge room area, and she was good she spoke a little in fact she made me cry when she said “I don’t like hospitals, I don’t want to be here, I want to be with Ron” it came out of nowhere and it just upset me.

So is everyone else ready for Christmas, I have found the last couple of weeks there have been days when I just don’t seem to have the time to blog but I guess that is normal we all have busy times when blogging has to take a back seat to other things in life.

Ok I know not everyone likes having their photo taken, but hey the person taking the photo is doing so for a reason, it may be an event or it may be because they love you and want a photo of you. So how hard is it to suck it up and deal, smile and look happy the above photo was taken by me last Thursday at Dawson’s end of year school presentation day this is the best shot of him I could get. When taking a photo of Dawson it helps if he doesn’t know you are taking it but even then it may not be the best shot of him.

It must be a male thing, well at least in my family as many of the male members of it don’t like to have their photo taken and Dawson is one of them, it is really hard to get a nice photo of him. The photo below was taken by me off one of his achievement awards he received of Thursday, it is a much nicer photo, so you can see he can smile and look happy it just doesn’t happen very often.

 

T’was the night before Christmas and all through the house nothing was stirring, not a noise could be heard, except for papa who was snoring

The children were in bed giggling and laughing to excited to sleep because Santa Claus would soon be there………however, sleep won out and sleep they did………….

When all of a suddenly a noise was heard from outside the house…………the noise of reindeer, on lawn eating, the reindeer food left out for them.

Leo & Blain jumped out of bed and looked out the window, their eyes so big and round because they could see reindeer and where there was reindeer there would be Santa.

So out to the lounge room they sneaks hoping to see Santa, and there he was placing toys in their Santa sack both started to giggle and Santa turns and looks at them sternly………………and shoos them away.

He says not a word but continues to place toys in the sack, looking back to make sure they had gone, however they were still there just very quiet and hiding………………..

When the toys had all been left he drinks his beer, eats his cake, smiles snaps his fingers and the door opens and out he goes…………..

The boys run back to the window to watch him leave, he jumps in his sleigh and says…………….Now Dasher & Dancer, Prancer & Vixen , on Comet, on Cupid, Donder & Blitzen dash away, dash away all.

Into the sky they rose and as they drove out of sight Santa was heard to say Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night.

Cheating is a choice, not a mistake, and not an excuse.

If you decide to cheat, and you succeed in cheating someone out of something, don’t think that this person is a fool. Realize that this person trusted you much more than you ever deserved, and they learned a lesson about who you really are.

The above is something I saw somewhere, don’t remember where but thought it was so true I would save it and use it as a blog post so that is what I am doing today.

So here is the question for today, have you ever cheated?

I had to give this a lot of thought because to be honest I don’t remember ever cheating, but I am sure at some point in my 51yrs of life I have in fact cheated, I never cheated at school there was no point as I was often the smartest kid in the class and I have never cheated on Tim that is just not who I am. But I am sure I must have cheated at something at some point in time.

Although I have never seen the point in cheating maybe if I was one of the dumbest kids in class I might have felt different and as for cheating on Tim well I love him so much and have never met anyone who has even tempted me to do so.

I really don’t understand why some people cheat on a spouse or girl/boyfriend, if you are in love with someone why would you want someone else.

As for cheating on exams well you really are the one who is going to end up behind the 8 ball because as some point you are going to have to know the answers you copied so doesn’t it make more sense to learn the stuff and not cheat.

I have wondered at times how a cheater teaches their children that cheating is wrong, for them it is “do as I say not as I do”……………………..

I am sure my own mum could relate to this, she is 73yrs old but she is still driving kids to school and day care and minding babies and toddlers 5 or 6 days a week, and cleaning up after them. Would she have it any other way, NO, she loves doing it yes there are days when she is so exhausted and wonders why she is still doing these things at 73yrs of age.

Now I may not be a mother in-law yet although Kathy-Lee is in a serious relationship and is hoping it is a till death relationship but still I do not think Michael think of me as a mother in-law but that is neither here nor there in my opinion I think of him like a son in-law and I treat him like one too.

Tim is very close to his mum in-law in fact God help you if you say anything against him or does anything to harm him because my mum will attack you fiercely as if he was her own child. The same can be said about how Tim feels about mum, in many ways he has been closer to her than he was to his own mother.

I have often wondered how he is going to support me when the time comes that I lose mum, as I will be a wreck and so will he be………………………………….lol

Tim has called my parents mum & dad since before we were married and he has said many times that my parents have treated him better than his own parents did, Tim wasn’t used to a close knit family like how my family is, he has also said many times that he hopes he is as good a parent as my dad is. A long time ago he said he wanted his daughters to think of him the way me and my siblings think of our dad, it is my dad he strives to be alike.

My mum has always treated her son in-laws and her daughter in-law like family and would never say a bad thing about them, even if she didn’t like them much, she would keep her thoughts to herself saying if they make my child happy than I am happy.

I can’t say I had the same relationship with my mother in-law, for a number of reasons; the big one being that I only saw her once or twice a year and the second one was she gave me the creeps. It is hard to explain why she did there was just something about her that gave me the creeps maybe it had to do with how she smelt or how disgusting her house was I don’t know I just didn’t look forward to visiting her. This rubbed off on my children they also didn’t like visiting her, in fact when we went for a visit before getting to her place we would have to stop at Macca’s to use the toilet and then when we left we would go straight to Macca’s for another toilet visit………………….lol

So do you have in-laws? Do you get along with them? How do they treat you?

If you read these words how would you feel?

I’m pathetic, I have no job, no hope of getting a job and I need a job, I am barely scrapping by on what the government pays me now and that is going to be reduced next year by around $350 and I am terrified. I can’t sleep because I can’t stop thinking. I need a job and I am never going to get one. I don’t have resume, I don’t know how to write one and I don’t know how to do an interview. I don’t know how to do anything but stupid things that have no real world application. I’m pathetic………………….

I can’t stop thinking about this so I can’t sleep, I am so terrified I want to cry but I can’t cry because I am to tired too, every time I close my eyes I don’t know where I will be or what is going to happen to me in only a few months times.

To top it off I am a horrible mother to my son and I have no discipline and I can’t stick to my guns, even if I had them. I don’t know what I am doing, with anything. My life, his life, a job my house, my dogs, I am failing everywhere and I am Terrified and so tired but to terrified to sleep………….

This is a transcript of a couple of text messages I received this morning and I can tell you they left me so sad and feeling helpless, as a mother I want to be able to fix things and make my daughters feel safe and secure and well happy and protected and this makes me feel like I have failed. There is little to nothing I can do to make things better.

Well the time has arrived for me to decorate my house for the Christmas season, I do love this time of year, and love to have the house decorated. I don’t go overboard with the decorations, well I don’t think I do but Tim might think differently but he doesn’t say anything about the decorations he should know what I am like after 30 yrs together. In past years I would have Christmas decorations hanging on things around the rooms now I use the decorations that stick to the walls and windows a lot I prefer them now so much easier. I even decorate my car with those stickers that go on the windows.

Now you would think growing up in a house that has lots of Christmas decorations up, you would decorate your own home when you move out but I have three daughters and none of them have been big on decorating but they are getting better. I have told my girls you don’t have to do it for yourself do it for your child, as Christmas is all about children in my opinion but not just children there are adults like me who love Christmas as well.

When I have finished my decorations I will take photos and post them on my blogs like I did last year, and yeah I know I didn’t have this blog last year…………………

So here is the question for this post are you a Christmas decorator, or do you prefer to not have many or any decorations up at all, maybe you are not a Christian and don’t do Christmas I get that, I know we are all not Christians and there are religions that don’t do Christmas that is fine we are all different and all so alike at the same time.