Do People Take Advantage Of Me………………….Maybe…………………

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I am a loving and caring person, this I have no doubt about I don’t judge people and I try to always be there for my family when they need me.

Now because of these traits I also believe people take advantage of me from time to time, so my question today is do you think people with big hearts and who are willing to help whenever they can get taken advantage of or is that just something in my own mind…………………..

Now don’t get me wrong this hasn’t happened in many years but there was a time when it seemed the case, many years ago I allow a couple of friends of my daughters to move in and live here for a few months and at the time a number of people would say that they were taking advantage of me. Maybe they were I don’t really know, was it a mistake to allow them to live here I don’t know, what I do know that those days were some of the happiest in my life maybe it was because I felt needed.

I do like to feel needed which maybe while I am always willing to do stuff for my daughters, like take them places go with them to appointments if they need me too. That said I think most people like to feel needed, it is normal and I am normal more or less anyway………lol

I know there are those who think my family will take advantage of my loving caring nature and my wiliness to do things for them, ok that is a bit vague so let me go into some detail I do make sure that my sisters have presents for our parents when it is their birthday, or mother/father day and of course Christmas yes I go out and buy the present and will wrap it and get a card. Recently we have had a few baby showers in the family and I have made sure my daughters and sisters have had presents and cards for the person this is just something I do so are they taking advantage of my kindness in allowing me to do this instead of doing it themselves……………I don’t know……………….

What I do know is that if they are taking advantage of me then I am allowing them to do so and is it such a bad thing, I know many people would think it is a bad thing but I don’t.  It would be a bad thing if I was unaware of it but I’m not in the dark I am a grown woman and I have a voice and if I wanted to say NO than I could I chose to say nothing so really are they taking advantage of me if I am ok with doing all these things. This is me this is who I am and for the most part I like who I am……….

Back to when Brodie & Aaron lived here they did pay rent and such not a lot of rent but what I asked for, the problems with them started after they moved out of here and into a flat that was in my daughter’s name she sublet it to them and they ran up a big phone bill and left before the lease was over and there was some other things that caused a rift between us and we no longer have anything to do with them. Now I know that hubby has said he would no longer open our home and hearts to people like that again but I am not so sure I think maybe I would.  That is just the way I am……………..

Yes I know this post is here there and everywhere but hell this is how I am at times my mind jumps all over the place……………lol

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Sensible, Responsible and Reliable That Is Me……………….Is That You Too………

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Ok what do I want to talk about today, let me think for a moment and I will go with how sometimes it sucks to be the oldest child…………..as the oldest child it often seems to me that I am thought of as being sensible and responsible and reliable and what is even suckier is that I am all those things. If I act in a way that is not sensible or responsible then everyone things something is wrong with me it is as if I am not allow to just kick back and be silly…………I know that this is my own doing since I have been both sensible and responsible along with reliable ever since I was a teenager like from around the age of 14.

I remember when I was around the age of 14 I started cooking tea while my mum was at work I would have it all ready by the time she got home so that we could just sit down and eat and mum didn’t have to do anything. Also from about the same age my dad would give me mum to take my sisters shoppping for Mother’s Day, Christmas & Birthday Presents for mum and of course when my youngest sister and brother were born I would also take them shopping with me to get mums presents too so I was 16 and I would take 3 sisters and my brother with me to do the present shopping.

Now I am 49yrs old and I am stil the one who makes sure my siblings have presents for my parents well when I say siblings I mean sisters since my brother and his wife manage on their own to get presents.4

So here is my question do you ever think you are to sensible or to reliable do you think you have become set in a role in your family or maybe you are the one that everyone things can’t manage on their own or is the one most likely to mess up some how………….and if that is the case are those thoughts only thought of by you…………………..

My sister Sue thinks that about herself she always puts herself down and belives that she is the black sheep of the family when in fact she is the only one who thinks that……………..however I do not think I am the only one to think I am sensible and responsible and reliable I beleive all my siblings and other family members think about me in the same way…………….Image

Introducing Myself or My First Post

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For all of you who have never heard of me I am Jo-Anne and this is my first post here at WordPress but I do have another blog over here: http://jo-annemotherandnanna.blogspot.com.au but thought for no particular reason that I would start another blog here since both blogs have a similar name those who already know me from over at Blogspot should realise who this is.

So who am I well I am a mother and a grandmother, I come from a close knit family and talk about them in my blogs a lot. I would like to think I am witty and funny but in truth I am not but in my I can pretend I am can’t I…………………lol

I am Australian I love Australia, I have been married to the love of my life for going on 28yrs we have 3 wonderful, beautiful daughters and 2 gorgeous grandsons and 1 gorgeous granddaughter with another grandchild on the way.

I do have a habit of rambling on a bit in my posts and in my comments, I don’t swear unless you consider words like “bloody hell” swearing which I do not as I say/use those words a lot in my comments and posts……………

So kick off this blog I am asking everyone who reads this do you come from a close knit family?
How often do you see your family? Do you like your family? How important do you think family is?